Dear Maya,
I’m happy that you are joining me on the journey of dating this year. After the long break, I feel I’m ready as well.
I have to say though that I don’t think you will get the answer for any the questions until you actually dive head first into the dating game, Maya. Step one is possibly the entire step and a very important one. Seriously ask yourself if you are ready for anything to happen and able to handle the emotions that go with being vulnerable with someone and watching them do the same with you. Only then will you know what direction you want to go in.
Its not possible to optimize the results before the quest begins- its not that mathematical. A date might be like a job interview at first, but I’ve been feeling contrary to popular myth dating isn’t like looking for a job where you have pros and cons that are universal for certain age group or gender. Its so subjective.
You want to date? Just start taking chances on guys, regardless of where you meet them or if they are the ones or the opinion of your friends. Be ready to make mistakes, be tired and hopeless..its part of the process! Don’t demand a time-period either like I did with my 50 dates in a year either. I, briefly felt like I failed when I only managed to 20. But then it hit me, no one else is putting up these kinds of expectations except me. So I am allowed to disappoint me 
Anyway, think positive and don’t give up thinking positive is what I’m saying. If you are feeling negative, take a break like I did. We might never be completely satisfied but at the end we are the only ones that benefit for learning a little bit more about ourselves.
All the best to us!
Love,
Lata
